YOU ARE WHAT YOU ALLOW

Read this some time ago, sent by a friend and thought why not share this with everyone i know...

YOU ARE WHAT YOU ALLOW

The story is told that a man who often felt insulted by people once went to a very wise man and told him about his problem.

   
He said: “I am easily insulted by people and it really hurts me when people say bad things to me”.

 
The wise man asked, “if someone gives you a gift and you don’t accept the gift, who does the gift belong to?”

 
“Well”, the wise man said, “if you don’t accept the gift from the other person, who does it belong to?”

 
The man replied, “Obviously to the person who is giving it to me”.

 
“There you go,” said the wise man, “that’s the answer. So if someone insults you and you do not accept the insult, who does it belong to?’

 
 For us to be insulted, be belittled, angered, wronged, we must accept it from the giver. The minute we accept it, it becomes ours, we own it and it becomes our stuff.

   
I know this is much easier said than done, but often people project their stuff on to us. If we accept it, it becomes our stuff. We are then offended, angered, wronged and so forth.

   
This is about choice and how we choose to allow the world and others to affect us. To live positive lives we need to think about the following:

 The good opinion of other people:

People’s opinion is actually just that, their opinion, we can take from it what we want and extract from it the good and let the rest go.

 
Often they mean well, which is beside the point. What you choose to accept, will influence your life.

You are what you consume:

You have to ask yourself : Do you consume a lot of negativity and insults? If you do, you will obviously be affected by this. It’s the same in what we eat and drink, what we listen to and what we watch.

 
If the stimuli are negative. If you drink too much alcohol, soon you’ll be drunk. IF you listen to too many negative things, soon you’ll be miserable and negative.
 

Let the change start with you:
By now you know that in order to receive less negativity in your life, you need to be less negative. If you want to see better and more lovable people in the world, you have to be more lovable and a better person.
 
Someone once asked me: How do we create a world of less crime? I told them it starts with them. The person then replied,”I don’t do any crime”. I noticed a pack of copied music CD’s and asked, “are these your music CD’s?” He replied, “Yes”. I said,” I know where you can start to help prevent crime”.
 
So give the gift of love, respect, positivity and a better life and refuse to accept the “gifts” of insults and negativity.